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“Can you imagine that the worst place in the world to be gay is having Gay Pride?” Kasha Jacqueline Nabagesera asked a crowd of cheering gay men, lesbians, transgendered men and women, and queers somewhere in between. It was Saturday afternoon, and we were on the shores of the giant, cloudy Lake Victoria in the Ugandan city of Entebbe, where L.G.B.T. activists had decided to stage the country’s first Pride Parade. Nabagesera, a lesbian activist covered, for the occasion, in glitter and neon spray paint, with homemade angel wings, was being half-sarcastic. A barrage of media coverage has painted the country as a hell for gays—a place where they are suffering and being attacked constantly—and, despite the need to combat such threats, L.G.B.T. Ugandans were tired of hearing a story that ignored their nuanced experiences of both joy and hardship. But Nabagesera was also sincerely pleased: a crowd of nearly a hundred people had come out, fears of arrest notwithstanding, to celebrate their existence. The air was thick with confetti, paint fumes, and anticipation.

I’ve spent a couple of months this year working on a story about gay rights here, as an Alicia Patterson Foundation fellow, and was surprised to see that the narrative had made yet another unexpected turn. Though activists are in the middle of a lawsuit they filed against ethics and integrity minister Simon Lokodo, who has been on a zealous effort to shut down all gay-advocacy workshops and non-profits allied with L.G.B.T. activists, spirits were high to the point that a Pride event was not just wanted, but needed. Uganda’s Pride was a weekend-long event, made up of film screenings, a fashion show in drag, and all-night (and into the morning) parties. Two hundred and fifty tickets had been sold, though, as a vivacious trans woman named Cleo told me, fifty-some people showed up on Thursday and Friday, because many were still wary about gathering in large groups. “We couldn’t have done this kind of thing two years ago, and for those that were here back then, they almost can’t believe things are safer and better now,” Cleo said. The first two days went off without a hitch, and more people, predictably, showed up for the evening bacchanals.

I took a bus from Kampala, the capital, to Entebbe on Saturday morning with a number of the participants. A trans woman named Bad Black showed me glamour photos taken of her at an L.G.B.T.-friendly studio in town: in them she is wearing a wig, dresses, and lingerie. Bad Black, who helps run a foundation that helps H.I.V.-positive L.G.B.T. Ugandans, was wearing typical male attire for the bus ride, but wore gold earrings and had short, fluffy curls. She can’t dress as a woman on a daily basis, but planned to change once we got to the lake. Nature, a cheerful trans woman sitting in front of us, plucked a photo to admire it and remarked, “Hmm, photos do lie.” The bus erupted into laughter. Several people, adorned in rainbow-patterned scarves and armbands, pulled out makeup compacts and started to apply bright eye shadow and lipstick. We made noisy stops along the highway to pick up more attendees, and passersby, curious about the laughter and music, peered inside.

The botanical grounds around the lake are a languid picnic destination for families and couples, but relatively secluded: an ideal location for a parade that was still on shaky ground, safety-wise. At the area reserved for the festival, participants wore yellow wristbands to identify themselves to each other and let loose. People swam, drank, and danced as a D.J. played loud music. I met people like Akram, who operates a “gay-video library.” Activist Frank Mugisha, who appeared dressed in a sailor’s costume with a rainbow sash and called himself Captain Pride, told me, “I just wish I had a switch to turn on that would make everyone who’s gay say they are gay. Then everyone who is homophobic can realize their brothers, their sisters, and their aunts are gay.” He confessed that he was shocked to see so many people in attendance.

As the parade began, in a convoy of marchers and cars blasting more music, people held up signs like “African and Gay. Not a Choice.” Children who lived nearby flocked to the parade, and adults stared, clearly stunned, and, in some cases, amused. The marchers chanted, “We are here” (a reference to those who say that there are no gays in Africa), and danced and sang in a chorus that was at once moving and exciting under a rainstorm of ribbons and flags. Nabagesera’s German shepherd trotted around in a rainbow-colored handkerchief. A woman named Claire said, “Even if Lokodo came today, he could not stop us.”

But Lokodo did come, or at least the police did. Hours after the parade ended, police raided the gathering, supposedly because they had heard a gay wedding was taking place, and arrested three participants, detained a photographer, and demanded statements from others, reminding all of the threats that gays still face. The station police chief eventually released them, and celebrations continued in Kampala. On Sunday, closing events went as planned. One participant, Ambrose, who was in charge of selling Pride-themed T-shirts, explained that the dynamics of being gay in Uganda have changed: “This is who we are. We are here to stay. And we are not going anywhere.”

Photographs by Anne Ackermann.

very worthy read. great.

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" When they called me, I thought, ‘Do they have the wrong number? Did they mean to call the guy from Vampire Diaries?’ "

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yeah. about all this.

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The Love Issue. [out]

The stories:

I Do Thee Wed: Two artistic men who have crafted an imaginative life together.
The Gaga Connection: Two look-alikes bond over pizza.
The Secret GardenVisionary director James Bidgood found his soulmate in a grindhouse.
First Step: Say YesCreating a baby is the next step for these Brooklyn artists.
When Stars Collide: What started as a brief encounter transformed two loving men.
Platonic IdealThe life-altering, mind-blowing, completely platonic love of Amos Mac & Rocco Kayiatos. 
Thicker Than BloodThese foster dads and newlyweds show how much difference a year can make.
How I Met Your MotherAn unfettered bisexual couple has settled down — for now.
Lieutenants, With Love Two air force officers went from secret identities to openly dating overnight with the repeal of ‘don’t ask, don’t tell.’
A Good FitEd Filipowski and Mark Lee are more than a fashion couple. 
Monogamy RedefinedSamuel Colt & Chris Porter, two adult film stars, find l’amour.
We Are the 90%: Author T Cooper on red-state living, his 2.3 children, and what it’s like being a big, swinging dick.

The photos:

26 Love Stories

our boss was passing these pics to me to look at on his phone during the staff meeting today lol. ~priorities, people.

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Midnight Snack: The Brite Spot with Erin Gibson and Bryan Safi

Bryan: Did you hear that stupid controversy? Bradley Cooper got “Sexiest Man Alive” and people were picketing outside People magazine because they thought Ryan Gosling should have gotten it. 
Erin: You can’t mess with Ryan Gosling fans. 
Rick: I didn’t know they were so vocal. 
Erin: There’s so many Ryan Gosling blogs. 
Bryan: Commenters on were so offended. 
Erin: Just tearing Bradley Cooper apart. 
Rick: Is that just based on The Notebook? Is that where the crazy Gosling fan-dom started? 
Erin: Then he did that thing on Jimmy Kimmel where he played the ukulele.
Bryan: Oh, that’s so gross. I hate anyone who plays the ukulele. It’s so stupid. 
Erin: I know he did it as a joke, but…
Bryan: Oh, he did do it as a joke? Like, “I’m a douche with a ukulele”? 
Erin: Yes. 
Bryan: Oh, okay. But banjo and ukulele, they’re still so gross. 
Erin: Don’t let Steve Martin hear you say that. 
Bryan: But Steve Martin’s brilliant. I’m just talking about dudes in Venice.

Read more here!

C, you don’t know how confused I am by this post.

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It’s a time-honored tradition at Navy homecomings – one lucky sailor is chosen to be first off the ship for the long-awaited kiss with a loved one.
Today, for the first time, the happily reunited couple was gay.

The dock landing ship Oak Hill has been gone for nearly three months, training with military allies in Central America.

As the homecoming drew near, the crew and ship’s family readiness group sold $1 raffle tickets for the first kiss. Petty Officer 2nd Class Marissa Gaeta bought 50 - which is actually fewer than many people buy, she said, so she was surprised Monday to find out she’d won.

Her girlfriend of two years, Petty Officer 3rd Class Citlalic Snell, was waiting when she crossed the brow.

They kissed. The crowd cheered. And with that, another vestige of the policy that forced gays to serve in secrecy vanished.

By Corinne Reilly
The Virginian-Pilot
© December 21, 2011 

" living a gay life without publicly acknowledging it - is simply not enough to make any significant contribution to the immense work that lies ahead on the road to complete equality. "

" when i found out that jamey rodemeyer killed himself - i felt deeply troubled. but when i found out that jamey rodemeyer had made an it gets better video only months before taking his own life - i felt indescribable despair. i also made an it gets better video last year - in the wake of the senseless and tragic gay teen suicides that were sweeping the nation at the time. but in light of jamey’s death - it became clear to me in an instant that living a gay life without publicly acknowledging it - is simply not enough to make any significant contribution to the immense work that lies ahead on the road to complete equality. our society needs to recognize the unstoppable momentum toward unequivocal civil equality for every gay lesbian bisexual and transgendered citizen of this country. gay kids need to stop killing themselves because they are made to feel worthless by cruel and relentless bullying. parents need to teach their children principles of respect and acceptance. we are witnessing an enormous shift of collective consciousness throughout the world. we are at the precipice of great transformation within our culture and government. i believe in the power of intention to change the landscape of our society - and it is my intention to live an authentic life of compassion and integrity and action. jamey rodemeyer’s life changed mine. and while his death only makes me wish that i had done this sooner - i am eternally grateful to him for being the catalyst for change within me. now i can only hope to serve as the same catalyst for even one other person in this world. that - i believe - is all that we can ask of ourselves and of each other. "

- zachary quinto [x] (via annie-banks)

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“I had all my fashion and decorating magazines forwarded to the base, which was a bit much.”

-Melvin Dwork, who was kicked out of the Navy for being gay in 1944. His discharge is now officially changed to “honorable” and he will be eligible for his veteran’s benefits.